From Tammy: Bridget & Dylan’s wedding, on June 29th, 2013 at Oak Hill Country Club, was full of thoughtful, simple details and classic beauty with soft blushes, whites, and beautiful pops of purple throughout. The day was incredibly intimate and touching as their entire family came together to celebrate (can we talk about how ADORABLE Dylan’s three boys are?!) and, with the summer sunshine spilling across the sweeping lawns of the golf course, it could not have been more lovely.
From Bridget & Dylan….
Bridget: I guess you could call my inspiration for the wedding Hampton-chic. I wanted it to be super classy and sophisticated but not stuffy or overly formal – just a simple, classic beauty. For the colors, I chose soft pinks and whites in order to keep that feel. We had peonies and white roses with chevron on the table numbers. The chevron actually tied everything together because we also used it on our save-the-dates and invitations.
Dylan and I did pretty much everything ourselves. It was pretty hectic! We’re both teachers and were in the middle of wrapping up the school year at the same time as we were trying to get everything done for the wedding.
Dylan: There were a lot of late nights. It would be 2am and we would just look at each other, sort of shrug and keep pushing through.
Bridget: Even though it was stressful doing everything ourselves, we did get lucky with the invitations. Dylan’s sister has a print studio here and she did all our invitations as a wedding gift.
The whole week before our wedding it poured and when I woke up that morning it was still raining. I was sure it wouldn’t stop but by the time I was getting ready it cleared up and turned into an absolutely beautiful day. I got ready at the Del Monte and it was super low key. I only had three bridesmaids and we just took our time and relaxed.
Dylan: My morning was spent at Lake Ontario with my three boys and one of their friends. The five of us had stayed overnight and then got ready there before heading to the church. It was really nice to have that time together – just the boys.
Bridget: We got married at Christ Episcopal Church in Pittsford. The whole day feels like such a blur! It went by so fast but it was perfect.
Dylan: Bridget and I decided not to do a first look – we really wanted the first time we saw each other to be when Bridget walked down the aisle – and the mystery behind the design of the dress had become a sort of running joke.
Bridget: I bought my dress in New York and even though Dylan traveled there with me he wasn’t allowed to actually see it. My mother came with us on one of the trips and when we met Dylan afterwards she told him, ‘Oh it’s so pretty. It has huge tulle sleeves and lots of glitter!’ That’s when it began.
Dylan: I knew it was going to be beautiful but when she came into the church, it took my breath away.
Bridget: Dylan and I hand-picked all of our readings. We chose a traditional Irish blessing and a passage from 1 Corinthians. We also included Dylan’s three boys in the ceremony, which was incredibly special. We decided to do traditional vows but we also wanted to say something personal to each other and the boys, so we each wrote a letter to each other and the boys and then read them during the ceremony.
From the moment we got engaged, we really tried to incorporate the boys into the whole process. They even came to our cake tasting with us! We wanted them to feel like they really helped bring the day to life. It was wonderful to see them become such a big part of the day.
Dylan: There is a great image of Bridget and the boys while she is giving her speech to them. Seeing that moment captured in time is just truly amazing.
Bridget: During the recessional we chose the song ‘Home’ by Phillip Phillips, which we love. A girl from the church played it on the piano and it was really pretty and happy – everyone was clapping. It was also the song we were introduced to at our reception, so it was a special way to tie it all together.
Dylan has a huge family, so most of the guests at the wedding were family and only a small group were friends. It was incredibly special to celebrate with all the people who we are so close to. The man who married us is actually Dylan’s cousin’s husband. He said a prayer during the toasts and two of Dylan’s cousins did a comical skit about love – they do it at all the family weddings – and it was very funny and sweet.
Dylan did his mother/son dance at the same time I did my father/daughter dance. Then, we had our first dance afterwards to ‘All this Time’ by One Republic. We spent so much time in our kitchen practicing and every time we’d get so emotional. All we kept saying was, ‘How are we going to do this at the wedding without losing it?!’ But we ended up being totally fine, which was a relief.
Dylan: My family loves celebrations – especially dancing and singing – so after a few hours, as people began to clear out, my family pretty much took over and it became a gigantic dancing, sing-along party. We were so loud! But at the end of the night, when we were all singing and dancing together, that was my favorite part. I loved that part.
Bridget: For both of us, having the kids incorporated was a hugely special part of the day. Doing our portraits during cocktail hour was also really nice – it gave us time to just be on our own and away from everything for a little bit. And I loved the speech that my maid of honor gave. It completely blew me away.
There isn’t anything about the day itself that I would change but getting everything done and perfect beforehand was incredibly stressful. In hindsight I would definitely have given away some of the responsibility to friends and family.
As far as advice goes, the biggest thing I would say is delegate, delegate, delegate! Take full advantage of all of the resources you have and don’t be afraid to ask for help. And, don’t stress out over all the little details. At the end of the day, no one’s going to remember their place card or the centerpieces or the linens. Even if something goes wrong, no one knows it was supposed to be different. They won’t even notice. The only other thing is to spend your money thoughtfully – make sure to think about the things that are most important to you and build you budget around those items. We spent our money on the photographer, the band, and an open bar. If nothing else, that’s what made the party. And the amazing images we have from our day will be with us forever, even if the memories fade.
As always, here are the wonderful vendors who helped make this beautiful day come together!
Photography: Tammy Swales Studio. Ceremony: Christ Episcopal Church. Reception: Oak Hill Country Club. Save-the-Dates/Invitations: French Press. Catering/Cake: Oak Hill Country Club. Additional Desserts: Village Bakery and Cafe. Flowers: The Topiary. Band: Orient Express. Wedding Dress/Veil: Vera Wang New York. Bridal Shoes: Badgley Mischka. Earrings: Kendra Scott. Groom/Groomsmen: Tommy Hilfiger. Groom’s Sons: J. Crew Crewcuts. Bridesmaid Dresses: Dessy After Six. Linens: Simply Beautiful Events. Hair/Makeup: Scott Miller.